Seven mistakes people make in finding their passion and purpose

Seven mistakes people make in finding their passion and purpose



“Good, good, good, good vibrations …” —The Beach Boys

I had a client recently lament about how his work situation was so different from his girlfriend’s. He works at a job he can’t stand because he thinks he must do so in order to pay his bills and live the lifestyle he has become accustomed to. His girlfriend, on the other hand, left a job she hated in order to find her passion. She did this even though she had to make sacrifices in her lifestyle and work part time after school in order to support herself. It was worth it to her, however, because she now gets to do what she loves doing.
According to “cutting edge” physicists, what we think becomes our reality. How does this relate to the work situation of my client and his girlfriend? If we think we have to work or do something that we don’t want to do, we will ultimately attract MORE of what we don’t want. Our thoughts are energetic vibrations that are sent out into the universe. Once they are sent out, they start to manifest in our physical world, sending off a chain reaction of cause and effect. Since energy attracts like energy, negative energy attracts more of the same — negative energy.
Thoughts aren’t the only energy vibrations that do this. Feelings and emotions do the same thing. So, if we are really feeling negatively about something, more negative feelings will ultimately come back to us. Likewise, positive emotions send out higher frequency vibrations that magnetize and bring more positivity. Another term for this is called “snowballing.” When things “snowball” out of proportion, the energy in a given situation keeps growing and expanding.

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” —Steve Jobs

My business coach, Shelley Riutta, is a holistic psychotherapist and the founder of the Global Association of Holistic Psychotherapy and Coaching. She maintains, “In order for people to truly be happy, they need to be in full alignment with their life purpose.” Most of us who understand the dynamics of universal energy agree. When thinking about one’s life purpose, several questions need to come into mind: Who am I? Why am I here? What are my gifts and passions? What do I do with them? Can I make a living utilizing them?
These are essential life questions that many of us often ask, especially during crises. Unfortunately, for one reason or another, most of us end up sabotaging ourselves by never answering these questions. The few people that do answer them rarely let the revelation of those answers help motivate them to improve their lives. The seven mistakes that block one from reaching his or her life passion and purpose are:
Hanging on to past issues that block you.
Being separated from your authentic self.
Perpetuating what others think and expect of you, and maintaining rigid thinking.
Not knowing or being disconnected from your passion.
Not knowing your unique gifts.
Cutting yourself off from self-exploration.
Living with limited thinking and diminished dreams.

“To be in the kingdom is to merely focus your full attention on it. You have to be willing to perceive nothing else.” —“A Course in Miracles” —Helen Schucman

So is it really possible to find your life purpose and live it out? Yes! But it takes aligning your intention and accompanying feelings with believing it will happen. What you put out really does comes back to you. In order to change your focus to life passion, possibility and purpose, you need to take steps to discover what they are. Then, with perseverance, you have the power to maintain them — continually creating and living your life the way you want it. Your life becomes a kingdom that manifests outward, enabling you to live in joy and authenticity.
Jill E. Greinke, MSW, LCSW, SAC, is a holistic psychotherapist and transformational consultant specializing in transformational counseling and coaching, group coaching, workshops, teleconferences, presentations, speaking engagements and consultations. To get her free report, “Five Steps to Miraculous Living,” visit her at

This post originally published Natures Pathways Magazine November 2013


  1. I love this blog post, Jill! I plan to do some journaling for myself about the 7 mistakes to see what I might be able to root up from the dim recesses!!

  2. Love the vision of the kingdom, which is my life, manifesting outward. I believe!

  3. Wonderful post, Jill. I’m not sure why it’s so hard for us to remember that like attracts like. Your post is a wonderful reminder of this and how to steer oneself into a better way of thinking. I know I was unhappy at a job I didn’t like for just long enough. I am grateful to be following my passion to help animals heal which in turn helps people heal. With perserverance, as you say, I am “intentionally creating and living my life the way I want it. Hopefully my life is becoming my kingdom”. I am certainly enjoying the journey toward it. 🙂

  4. Great blog post, Jill! ~ I’ve shared it on my Twitter page – and already, it’s getting retweeted by others! 🙂

  5. I agree Jill that aligning with our life purpose is so key to a life worth living because it leads us down a path of fulfillment! Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙂


  6. Great article Jill! It’s true, if you’re not aligned with your authentic self and your life purpose you will continue to struggle. That was my case for many years, until I decided that I couldn’t afford the way I was living. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

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